This week, Jonah Hill made headlines because he asked for people to not make his body a topic of conversation. A message to his Instagram followers was complete with acknowledgement, understanding and a simple note of it “doesn’t feel good” regardless of the intent. I can’t do it enough justice when I tell you I felt that with every inch of my soul.

Just kidding…. I won’t even pretend I’m an expert in self care. In fact, I’m the exact oppposite.

Here’s what I’m an expert in:

Intense anxiety.

Crippling self doubt.

Stress-induced insomnia.

Obviously, imposter syndrome. (Amiright?)

Laying on my couch staring at my ceiling because my brain is a frozen ball of overwhelmed mush and I have no ability to do, think, or literally move at all.

People who’ve only known me in recent years are often surprised to find out I have gone through my own weight journey. When I share I have lost 100 pounds (give or take), it’s met with disbelief until I show them the picture. There is one specific photo I always pull up, though not even showing me at my heaviest it seems to have the most profound impact on the physical difference.

I could just as easily title this article as “How To Be Supportive” and highlight the same issues. But that wouldn’t grab your attention. Also, we all pretty much know how to be supportive, in a general sense of the term. But for people who struggle with commitment and accountability, it’s not necessarily about being supportive – it’s making sure you’re not inadvertently being unsupportive.